Meeting an escort in London isn’t like booking a table at a restaurant. It’s a personal, often emotionally charged interaction that requires respect, clarity, and awareness of boundaries-both yours and theirs. Whether you’re new to this or have done it before, getting it right matters. Not just for your safety, but for theirs. And yes, legality is part of the equation. In the UK, selling sexual services isn’t illegal, but activities like brothel-keeping, pimping, or soliciting in the street are. That means most legitimate escorts operate independently, through vetted platforms, or by appointment only. Knowing how to behave isn’t just polite-it’s practical.
Do: Be Clear About Your Intentions From the Start
Don’t play games. If you’re looking for companionship, conversation, or physical intimacy, say so. Escorts aren’t mind readers. A vague message like “Let’s hang out?” creates confusion and can feel disrespectful. Instead, be direct: “I’d like to meet for dinner and spend a few hours together,” or “I’m interested in a private session lasting two hours.” This gives the escort the chance to decide if they’re comfortable with your request. Most will respond faster and more positively to clarity than to ambiguity.
Also, be upfront about your budget. If you’re offering £150 an hour, say so. If you’re looking for something more premium, say that too. Hiding your offer or trying to negotiate after meeting creates tension. Escorts set their rates based on experience, demand, time, and expenses. Respect that. If it’s outside your range, move on. There are plenty of options.
Don’t: Assume They’re Available on Demand
Just because someone is listed as an escort doesn’t mean they’re free tonight-or even this week. Many work part-time, have other jobs, or manage personal commitments. Booking last-minute is not only rude, it’s often impossible. Most require 24 to 48 hours’ notice. If you message at 11 p.m. asking to meet at midnight, you’re likely to get ignored-or worse, flagged as unreliable.
Also, don’t treat them like a taxi service. You can’t just show up, change your mind halfway through, or demand extra time without paying more. They schedule their day around appointments. If you’re late, they lose income. If you cancel last-minute, they lose a potential client. Treat their time like you’d treat a doctor’s appointment or a business meeting.
Do: Respect Their Space and Rules
Every escort has boundaries. Some won’t do certain acts. Others won’t allow alcohol or drugs. Some insist on no kissing. Some only meet in hotels. Some refuse to talk about their personal life. These aren’t negotiable. They’re there for safety, comfort, and professionalism.
If you’re unsure, ask. A simple “What are your boundaries?” goes a long way. Don’t test limits. Don’t push back. Don’t make jokes about them. If they say no to something, accept it. Pushing boundaries isn’t sexy-it’s dangerous. And it’s a quick way to get blocked, reported, or even reported to the police.
Also, don’t bring friends. Never. Not even “just one guy to hang out.” That’s a hard rule for almost every legitimate escort. It’s not about being controlling-it’s about control. One-on-one interactions are easier to manage, safer, and less stressful. Bringing someone else breaks trust and increases risk for everyone involved.
Don’t: Try to Be Their Friend or Partner
This is a transaction. Not a romance. Not a therapy session. Not a rebound. Escorts don’t sign up to be your emotional crutch. If you start sharing your divorce, your loneliness, or your deep fears, you’re crossing a line. They’re there to provide a service, not to fix your life.
Some escorts are warm and friendly. That doesn’t mean they’re emotionally available. Many have learned to be polite to keep clients comfortable. But don’t mistake that for connection. If you start texting after the session, asking for dates, or trying to get their personal number-you’re not being romantic. You’re being intrusive. And you’ll likely get blocked or reported.
There’s a difference between being kind and being clingy. Be polite. Be grateful. Say thank you. But don’t expect a friendship. That’s not what you paid for.
Do: Pay on Time and as Agreed
Payment should be handled before or immediately after the service. Most escorts prefer cash, but some use bank transfers or apps like Revolut or Wise. Agree on the method ahead of time. Don’t wait until the end to ask if they take PayPal. Don’t try to haggle after the fact. Don’t leave without paying.
If you’re paying cash, count it in front of them. If you’re paying digitally, confirm the transfer. A screenshot or receipt is enough. If you’re late with payment, they’ll notice. And they’ll remember. Word spreads quickly in this industry. A bad reputation can cost you access to services you might want again.
Also, tipping isn’t required-but it’s appreciated. If the experience was good, adding £20-£50 shows you value their time. It’s not a bribe. It’s recognition.
Don’t: Take Photos or Record Anything
Unless they explicitly say yes-and even then, only if they’re in control of the situation-don’t take photos, videos, or screenshots. This is a hard line. Most escorts have been exploited this way. A photo taken in a moment of trust can end up online, used for blackmail, or shared without consent. Even if you think you’re being discreet, you’re not.
Phones are a risk. Cameras are a risk. Smartwatches? Also a risk. If you bring your phone, keep it face down. If you’re tempted to snap a picture, don’t. It’s not worth the legal and emotional fallout. And yes, it’s illegal to record someone without consent in the UK, even in private settings. You could face criminal charges.
Do: Leave on Time and With Respect
When the time is up, end it cleanly. Don’t linger. Don’t make small talk to stretch the session. Don’t ask if you can “just sit here for a few more minutes.” If you want more time, ask before it ends-and be ready to pay extra. Most escorts have another appointment waiting.
When you leave, say goodbye. Thank them. Don’t ghost them. Don’t just walk out. A simple “Thanks for your time, have a good night” goes further than you think. It shows you see them as a person, not a service.
And don’t leave a mess. If you used their space, clean up after yourself. Used tissues? Bin them. Dishes? Leave them in the sink. Don’t treat their home or hotel room like your own. They didn’t invite you to live there.
Don’t: Talk About Them Online
Don’t post reviews on forums. Don’t name them on Reddit. Don’t tell your friends who they were. Don’t write “I met this amazing girl in London” with details that could identify them. Even if you think you’re being vague, someone might recognize them. Their privacy is their livelihood.
Many escorts use pseudonyms. They change their photos regularly. They avoid social media. They do this to protect themselves. If you respect that, you’re part of the solution. If you don’t, you’re part of the problem.
There’s a reason most escorts don’t use real names. Don’t be the one who ruins that.
Do: Know the Legal Risks
While paying for sex isn’t illegal in the UK, other things are. If you’re caught soliciting in a public place, you could get fined. If you arrange a meeting in a public park or street, you’re breaking the law. If you’re found with someone who is underage-even if they say they’re 18-you could face serious criminal charges.
Always verify age. Ask for ID. Don’t assume. Don’t be fooled by a photo. If they’re nervous about showing ID, walk away. If they refuse, walk away. There’s no exception. No “I thought they looked old enough.” The law doesn’t care what you thought.
Also, never pay in a way that leaves a digital trail if you’re trying to hide it. Using your real name, bank account, or credit card increases your risk. Many escorts use cash or encrypted apps for a reason.
Don’t: Expect Perfection
Escorts are human. They have bad days. They get tired. They might be sick. They might be stressed. They might not be in the mood-even if they agreed to meet. That’s okay. You’re paying for their time and presence, not for a flawless performance.
Don’t complain if they’re quiet. Don’t demand they be more energetic. Don’t compare them to someone else. Don’t act entitled. You’re not paying for a fantasy. You’re paying for a real person showing up, under their own terms, in a high-risk profession.
Respect goes both ways. If you treat them like a person, they’ll treat you like one too.
Do: Walk Away If Something Feels Off
Trust your gut. If the meeting location feels unsafe. If they seem nervous or pressured. If the vibe changes suddenly. If they’re asking for more money than agreed. If they won’t let you see their ID. If they won’t let you leave. Walk out. No explanation needed. Your safety matters more than your pride.
Call a friend. Call a taxi. Call the police if you feel threatened. You’re not a bad person for leaving. You’re a smart one.
And if you’re ever unsure, don’t go. There’s no shame in saying no. No one is going to judge you for choosing safety over curiosity.