Paris is not just about croissants and the Seine. It’s also a city where people from all walks of life meet - sometimes for connection, sometimes for companionship. If you’re considering dating an escort in Paris, the question isn’t just how to find one. It’s how to treat them like a human being. Being a gentleman isn’t about expensive gifts or fancy restaurants. It’s about respect, boundaries, and honesty - especially in situations where power imbalances are easy to ignore.
Understand What You’re Getting Into
First, be clear: an escort is not a romantic partner. They offer time, conversation, and companionship - often in exchange for payment. That doesn’t make them less valuable. It makes the relationship transactional, not emotional. Confusing the two leads to disappointment, awkwardness, or worse. If you’re looking for love, go elsewhere. If you’re looking for adult company, be upfront with yourself and with them.
Many escorts in Paris work independently or through agencies. They set their own rates, hours, and rules. Some prefer quiet dinners in Le Marais. Others enjoy walking through Montmartre at sunset. A few may agree to a night out at a jazz bar in Saint-Germain. But none of them owe you romance, affection, or emotional labor. You pay for their presence - not their feelings.
Respect Their Time and Space
Imagine showing up 45 minutes late because you got stuck in traffic. Or worse - showing up with a friend who didn’t know the arrangement. That’s not just rude. It’s degrading. Escorts in Paris often juggle multiple clients, manage their own schedules, and deal with the stigma of their work. The least you can do is honor their time.
Be on time. If something changes, message them early. Don’t ask for last-minute extensions unless you’re willing to pay extra. Don’t show up drunk or high. Don’t bring gifts unless they’ve said it’s okay. And never assume that because you paid, you get to dictate how the evening goes.
One client I spoke with (anonymously, of course) said he always asked his escort what she wanted to do that night. Not what he wanted. What she wanted. She picked a small bookstore in the 6th arrondissement, then they had coffee. He said it was the most relaxed evening he’d had in years. Not because it was fancy. Because she felt in control.
Dress Appropriately - But Don’t Overdo It
Parisians notice how you dress. That doesn’t mean you need a tailored suit. But showing up in a stained T-shirt and flip-flops sends the wrong message. It says you don’t care. Dress like you’re going on a date with someone you respect - because you should.
For men, clean jeans or chinos, a button-down shirt, and polished shoes work well. No logos. No flashy watches. No cologne that smells like a department store sample. You’re not trying to impress. You’re trying to be comfortable and present.
And don’t assume they’ll dress up for you. Many escorts work in casual clothes - jeans, a nice top, a coat. They’re not there to be your fashion model. Treat them like the professional they are.
Pay What You Agreed To - No Exceptions
Never haggle. Never try to pay less. Never wait until the end to bring up money. If you agreed on €200 for two hours, pay €200 when it’s over - on time, in cash or via the method they specified. If you want to tip, do it because you want to, not because you feel guilty.
Some men think they’re being generous by offering more money after the fact. But that can feel manipulative. It puts the escort in an awkward position: accept and feel pressured, or refuse and seem ungrateful. If you want to show appreciation, say thank you. Be kind. That means more than extra euros.
There’s a myth that escorts expect big tips. They don’t. They expect to be paid what was promised. That’s professionalism. Anything beyond that is a choice - not an obligation.
Don’t Ask Personal Questions - Unless They Offer
“How long have you been doing this?” “Why did you start?” “Do you have kids?” These are not conversation starters. They’re invasive. You wouldn’t ask a lawyer or a doctor these questions on a first meeting. Don’t ask them here.
Some escorts will share bits of their life if they feel safe. Let them. Listen. Don’t pry. Don’t try to fix their life. Don’t offer advice. Don’t say, “You deserve better.” You don’t know what they deserve. You’re not their savior. You’re a client.
Instead, talk about books, movies, the weather, the art exhibit downtown. Ask what they like to do on their days off. If they answer, great. If they don’t, change the subject. Silence is okay. So is a shared laugh over bad Parisian traffic.
Leave With Dignity - No Drama
The moment ends. You pay. You say goodbye. That’s it. No texts the next day asking if they’re free again. No Instagram follows. No “I really liked you” messages. You didn’t fall in love. You had a paid encounter. Acting like you did makes them uncomfortable - and you look desperate.
One escort in the 16th arrondissement told me she blocks clients who send “I’m thinking of you” texts. Not because she’s cold. Because it’s exhausting. She’s not your emotional outlet. You’re not her escape. You’re a client who paid for an hour of her time. That’s the boundary. Respect it.
If you want to see them again, book properly. Don’t ghost them. Don’t disappear for months and then reappear like nothing happened. Be clear. Be consistent. Be professional.
Know the Law - And Stay Out of Trouble
In France, selling sex is legal. Buying it? Also legal - but only if the person is not being exploited. That’s the key. If someone is being trafficked, coerced, or underage, you’re breaking the law - and you’re part of a system that hurts people.
Always verify that the person you’re meeting is working voluntarily. Ask if they’re with an agency or independent. If they’re underage, walk away. If they seem scared, scared of their phone, or scared to say no - leave. Don’t try to “help.” Call a local organization like Association de Soutien aux Travailleuses du Sexe (ASTS). They’re trained to help.
Paris has strict rules about soliciting in public. Don’t approach someone on the street. Don’t use apps that advertise “quick meetups” with no verification. Stick to reputable platforms or agencies that screen clients and workers. It’s safer for everyone.
Be the Man Who Doesn’t Need to Prove Anything
Being a gentleman in this context isn’t about status. It’s about integrity. It’s about recognizing that the person across from you has a name, a story, and a right to be treated with dignity - no matter what they do for a living.
You don’t need to be rich. You don’t need to be charming. You just need to be honest, respectful, and consistent. Show up on time. Pay what you owe. Listen more than you talk. Leave without drama.
That’s not romance. That’s not fantasy. That’s just being human.
And in a city like Paris - where beauty, history, and complexity collide - that’s the rarest thing of all.